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Thursday, December 29, 2016

(Video) How to organize your house.

How To Organize Your House.

Here are some videos that will give you some amazing tips to teach you how to organize your house.  Sometimes it is hard to find a place for everything but these videos will show you how to achieve this.








Monday, December 12, 2016

What Would You Want To Do If You Only Had One Month To Live?


               What Would You Want To Do If You Only Had One Month To Live?

Hello, Ladies and Gentlemen.  I don't want to be morbid but I have had these thoughts a lot lately.  Have been very sick and the belief that there is another life with God after death is very real to me.  This post is very important to me because, at one point, I was given one month to live.  I was very fearful at the time but right now, I see death as an adventure, of course to the unknown but the possibility of life everlasting without the restrictions that are placed on the living.  Below, you will see the things that I would do if I only had one month to live.  I don't want you to feel sorry for me, I am just in my thoughts and I want to share it with you.  Some of the things that I would like to do may not even be acceptable to some but this is my vision.
  1. I would travel to some unknown place and visit people in a part of the world that I have never seen or didn't even know that they existed.
  2. I would spend all day eating the most fattening food that I love without any regrets.
  3. I have never been drunk ever in my life but I would get drunk and spend all my money on anything that I wanted at that moment. lol
  4. I would go to Times Square in New York City and sing "Forever Young,"  To the top of my lungs and watch everyone laugh.
  5. Would thank God and my Mom for giving me life
  6. Call everyone who didn't care for me and tell them bye suckers. Hopefully, I never ever have to see you again.
  7. Of course, spend time with my family.
  8. Go to a dog pound and let all the dogs out. lol
  9. Quietly, take a trip and never return.
  10. Ask my doctor for the strongest medicine so I can just drift away without suffering.

Saturday, December 10, 2016

How to save money.


Saturday, December 3, 2016

Charles And Colvard Moissanite Rings.

I have been researching Moissanite Rings for about three years.  I think that it is a viable alternative to a diamond ring.  You can get a beautiful, clear, stone that has beautiful rainbow colors.  Moissanite rings are a lot less than a high-quality diamond ring but they can still be pricey unless you buy the stone separately and have it set in the setting of your choice.

Watching YouTube video's can give you a lot of insight regarding this stone and you can learn the history because Moissanite was created by a meteorite.  Moissanite is not a diamond but it is a better quality stone for less money and that means that you can get a one or two carat stone that is much less than spending many thousands on a ring that almost cost as much as a car or down payment on a house.

These Moissanite reviews have convinced me that I definitely need this stone in my life.  Below are some good video's to watch and you can see the quality that I am talking about.













Friday, December 2, 2016

How To Encourage Yourself.

When you are going through things in life it is hard to break out of a rut or depression.  We wait for other people to lend an ear and to give us words that will give us hope in our situation.  At times we may not be in the place where we can receive advice from someone because they may not understand your situation,  Most times you cannot speak on things that you do not understand.

We used to think that talking to yourself was crazy but at times it is needed.  You can tell yourself that you can make it.  Encouraging yourself to move on can be done.  Reach for the sky when other people makes you think that you are wasting your time.  Don't let anyone put their negative perception into your spirit because it is their hangup and belief that they couldn't achieve some of the things that you did.

Working through things in life sometimes have to be done in silence apart from the world as some people are not going to pat you on your back or give you a much-needed hug.  Stick to the things that you promised yourself and keep talking to yourself and praising yourself for the good work that you already did.  "Talking To Yourself Is Fine If It Makes You Feel Much Better." Great words from Earth Wind And Fire.

Sunday, November 27, 2016

Should I Buy Inexpensive Shoes Or Not?

I have thought about this question many times when I go shoe shopping.  I have feet that swell a lot so I have a lot of problems when I am looking for a new pair of shoes.  I think that if you have enough money to get an expensive pair of shoes, I think that it is a good idea because, the shoes will fit you better and they will last longer.

You also have to keep in mind your lifestyle because if you are driving most of the time, you may be able to get by for a little while with cheaper shoes but,  if you are commuting to work by bus or train, you will need good shoes and in the long run, you will save more money because you will not have to replace them as much.

What I do sometimes; I will buy about three pairs of cheaper shoes so I do not wear out my shoes as often.  It is very hard to buy one pair of cheap shoes and make them last.  If you have trouble with your feet, you should go to a Podiatrist at least twice a year to get them checked out.  The Podiatrist will give you good advice on the kind of shoes you should wear.

Monday, November 21, 2016

Good Thanksgiving Recipes







Tuesday, November 15, 2016

How to wash clothes without a washing machine.

I decided to post these video's to show people how to wash clothes by hand.  This is a skill that everyone should learn just in case your washing machine is out of order or if you do not have a washing machine..









Monday, November 7, 2016

Please, Vote! It Is Your Right.

                                           Please, Vote!  It Is Your Right.

Hello, Everyone.  I just wanted to stop in and say that tomorrow we will be picking a new President Of The United States Of America.  I have been hearing some people say that they will not vote because they don't like the candidates but I have to say that nobody is perfect.  President Obama was not perfect even though he tried his best.  You will never find perfection in a human being because there is no such person.

We are going to experience some hard times whoever is in office because that is just the way life is.  Imagine being in America and not being able to vote at all.  We all would be complaining right?  Imagine how African Americans felt when they were finally able to vote February 3, 1870, We did not have full rights until The Voting Rights Act signed into law by President Lyndon Johnson on August 6, 1965.  These Americans did not have a perfect candidate but they still felt that their vote would make a difference.

I am not here to tell you who to vote for but exercise your right and vote.  If you do not vote then don't complain.

Saturday, November 5, 2016

You Cannot Depend On Luck To Be Successful.

                            You Cannot Depend On Luck To Be Successful.

I am a fortunate person.  At one time or another, I have even called myself lucky.  The best way to describe luck is, getting something that you didn't expect,  Or you gamble and win something that you wasn't sure that you would win.

 I have a different experience and my thoughts have changed regarding luck.  Luck is an idea and it is something that you cannot depend on.  This is the reason that people play the lottery or go to the casino and if they win one time, they will start to spend more money because they think that they are going to "hit it big."

The truth is, luck is a poor man's crutch.  The reason is because a lot of times we are spending money that could be used for something else because we are hoping and wishing that we will win.

 In regards to business, I believe that we sometimes use the same concept, we start a business and just hope that people will come and buy from us or support our business.

  If you use that strategy you are bound to fail.  It takes planning and very hard work to be successful.  You will have to put in a lot of hours and sometimes you may not make a profit at all for a while.  You will have to find ways to promote this business and sometimes you will have to pay money to do this.

Sometimes you will have to work for someone else until your business starts growing and paying off.
You may not even have much time to yourself to enjoy life but if you keep working hard on your business, you will be able to enjoy life later.

  If you want to enjoy a so-called charmed life, you will have to pay your dues.

I am not rich by any means but one day I will be. Most wealthy people don't believe or depend on luck; they make things happen on their own merit. Another thing is, people who are wealthy don't expect people to give them things, they get it for themselves.

Friday, November 4, 2016

Would You Like To See A Talk Show With Beautiful Plus Size Women?

     
     How Would You Like To See A Talk Show With Beautiful Plus Size Women?

Hello, Ladies, I was thinking today how wonderful it would be for someone to make a talk show with all beautiful plus size women.  This is something that should have happened already but maybe people feel that it wouldn't be marketable, but, I think it would be.  It would be great if it would focus on our needs with fashion, successful plus size women, love and relationships and etc.

You would be surprised at the clothes, makeup and hair products that we purchase just like anyone else.  Sometimes, clothes are much more expensive based on our sizes and I feel that this is a form of discrimination.  Most talk shows have the token plus size woman and I believe that this show idea would work for the masses of women who would like to see someone who looks like them on the television screen who are living and loving, large and in charge.  There are many plus size, women business owners and they should be featured on this talk show.

My ideal host would be Queen Latifah because I think that she projects a very positive image for beautiful plus size women and I would like to see women of all races.  Don't forget that Sashamoniquetalks is the one who put this idea out there and I would like for you ladies to comment if you would like to see a show such as this, in the near future.


Thursday, November 3, 2016

If It Don't Make Money, It Don't Make Sense.


If It Don't Make Money, It Don't Make Sense

I have heard people say this for a very long time.The phrase itself is not grammatically correct 
but, because of my southern roots, I understand what it means.  Many of us are involved in businesses and we are working hard to make it work and to get a stable income from our efforts that we put into it.  The truth of the matter is, It will take a while to see major growth for our money making activities.

A lot of people think, if they start a business, they will automatically get a lot of sales right away and that is not the case.  I agree with the phrase somewhat, because if you are spending a lot of money to start this business and you are not seeing major financial gains, you may be wasting your time. It is very important to stay on your job until you start seeing some real profit from your business.

Make sure to curb unnecessary spending while trying to grow your business. Sometimes you may have to change your money making strategy.  As long as you are not losing a lot of money, you should stick to your business goals.  If you put more work into it, you will start seeing the fruits of your labor.

Those of us who are working online know that our journey isn't going to be easy and it will take year's sometimes but I believe that God will bless your hands and your efforts that you put forth. Don't get weary and discouraged, keep it pushing!



Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Starbucks doubleshot Mexican mocha flavor

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

A Ring Is Just A Ring? (Get Ready For Christmas)



So, they say a ring is just a ring.  The holidays are coming up and you had a ring in mind but you don't have the funds to buy your dream ring.  You all know by now, that I am a ring addict and I am not ashamed of it, but sometimes, a hobby can be very expensive. I am also a person who will not wear my most treasured possessions in places that would put me at risk for damage or other unfortunate events.

I searched for inexpensive ways to feed my ring addiction and I found a site that has rings that are reasonable but I am interested in jewelry that doesn't tarnish or turn my fingers green.  I am a person who is allergic to many things so, as I started to look online, I was amazed at the jewelry that I saw and the rings were so pretty.

I want to tell you if, you are on a budget and you like to look glamorous, there are a lot of options now.  You may even be looking for an inexpensive engagement or wedding set but you know that you can only afford sterling silver or a ring from a chain store that is mediocre.  Well, the option that I found is stainless steel rings.  They are so comfortable, don't tarnish, hypoallergenic, and will not turn your finger green and they have some with colored stones, cubic zirconia, or plain bands.

This is a great option to look into and I found a wonderful site called https://www.buybluesteel.com/
You can get a beautiful ring and they also have rings in a yellow gold tone also.  Building your dream ring collection is now easy!



Disclaimer:  I am not sponsored by this company and I have not received anything of monetary value for this review.  I purchased items from this company from my own money. This is my honest opinion.

Thursday, October 27, 2016

Are You Planting Into Infertile Ground?

                                  Are You Planting Into Infertile Ground?

I decided to do this post because I have been thinking about the seeds that I have been planting for years now with my online hobbies.  Some of these activities are productive but It was never my goal to use social media as a business.

 There is a company that I have been associated with that has not lived up to the end of their bargain.  I will not say the name of this company but I feel that I have produced and I am not seeing any progress with this company.

  I think my biggest regret is not taking my hobby serious enough to see that it could possibly turn into something more.

Before you think about joining a social media platform, you should truly research it and see if it is a viable choice where you could turn it into a small business.  I  love having a hobby.

 I am a very sick person, so I have to keep my mind occupied to keep from dwelling on my illnesses.  Do not let these companies use  your craft to get rich and leave you with nothing.


Wednesday, October 26, 2016

How to get rid of credit card debt


Thursday, October 20, 2016

This Dress Is Cute!

                                                    This Dress Is Cute!

I went to the Mall about a week ago and I saw this simple, black, dress.  I love the cut of this garment and the material was good quality and heavy.  These kinds of dresses are a staple that we all should have because it can be dressed up or down.  You can wear this dress year round and just add a blazer when the weather gets cooler.

I didn't purchase it but if it is still around, I will go back and buy it.

Monday, October 17, 2016

I Have Been Shaken To The Core!

                                          I Have Been Shaken To The Core

Well, Guys, I had a lot to confront this weekend. There were decisions to be made and they had to be made quickly.  I cannot go into direct details but I have some things that I want to say.

 You can go through life and refuse to see the things right before you and you try to cover up the hurt but there will be a time that you will have to face a situation, a (Goliath) in your life.

 This situation was something that had been going on for a very long time but I didn't know how to confront this situation because of the uncertainty about how it would turn out.

God, let me know that now was the time and when I attempted to approach this situation, the pieces started to fall into place.  I was still fearful and to be honest, I still am.  That is what real change will do, it will scare the heck out of you.

  Still not sure what the outcome will be, but, I am expecting something great to come through this.  When God says move, you better move because you may not get the opportunity again.

Confront your fears early because it will still have to be confronted even if it is many years from now.


Saturday, October 15, 2016

The Truth About Poverty And Its Effects.

The Truth About Poverty And Its Effects.
A poverty mindset begins at a very young age.  We eat, sleep, and breathe its effects.
Poverty breeds contempt, greed, desperation, and instability.  If you have ever been poor, you will never forget the grip it has had on your life.

Even if you are no longer poor you will still wake up in a cold sweat from dreams you have had about your childhood.  The chipped paint, the times you probably have seen your parent cry because they are wondering where the food and the school clothes will come from.  Scenes of children going to bed hungry and their cries are something you will never forget.

Being poor is shameful, especially to children because they are usually teased and picked on in school.  They wear the badge of scorn that shouldn't be theirs. 

Sometimes you will see young mothers wearing designer duds while their babies are in a soiled shirt and diaper, most of the day.
Some fathers will avoid coming home because they don't want to face the reality because they are unemployed and a non-contributor to the family. Most of the time they will disappear or drown their despair with alcohol.

Some people will borrow money from a neighbor or friend to buy food and then the next month they will have to pay this person back and revisit poverty once more.  This is a never-ending cycle that will hold you in the prison and grip of poverty.

The problem with poverty is, we escape through spending money that we really don't have.  We run away through alcohol, gambling and sometimes drugs and do not hold the other parent accountable for the responsibility in our children's lives.

How To Escape Poverty?

Educate yourself.  If you cannot go to college, go to your local Library and read self-help books and money management books.  Get a job and find other legal ways to supplement your income.  You can take low-cost courses through your local high school. If you do not have your high school diploma, study and get your GED.

If you or your children need clothing, go to a clothing bank, participate in clothing swap meets so you can get bigger size clothing for your kids if they are outgrowing their clothes.  You can also volunteer at a local thrift store to get skills and free clothing.  Also, try Freecycle.org to get free clothing.

If you need furniture, there are thrift stores and also organizations that donate furniture.  Contact social service organizations again Freecycle or ask family and friends for furniture they no longer want or using.  You can also get furniture from the curb but be careful you do not want to bring bedbugs home.

For food, only buy generic brands and learn how to cook with inexpensive ingredients.  Watch YouTube videos for good, cheap, recipes.  If you are really desperate contact social services for help with food and if you are really in dire straights consider dumpster diving and if you live near a lake or stream learn how to fish and read books on how to cook and clean it correctly.

Live beneath your means, pray, and don't borrow what you cannot pay back.

  


Friday, October 14, 2016

~The Top Five Vloggers I Am Enjoying On YouTube~

There are some vloggers that I am really enjoying on YouTube.  Their Vlogs are  unique in their own right. Some Vlog with other family members and other's don't. If you are a person who enjoys daily Vlogs or weekly Vlogs, please check these wonderful people out.

                                                         Lily Sweetz

                                                     1CUPOFCOCOA TV

                                                          Darkberry32

                                                    BeingSupree


                                                  Thebellsplusone

Monday, October 10, 2016

So, you want to work at home huh?

So, you want to work at home huh?

Working at home can be very rewarding; I used to  do it many years ago.  If you have small children this could be the right solution for increasing your income while staying at home.  It sounds like it is so easy to do but it isn't.  If you are a person who isn't used to working independently you may have a problem.  When working at home you would have to give yourself a schedule to follow and the times when the kids are at school or sleep you could put in the work that is needed.

Some people are not cut out for this kind of work because they are not good at starting a job and finishing it without someone looking over their shoulder. You really have to have some self-determination or you will really fail.  If you do not put in your hours you will not make enough money to take care of yourself.

When looking for a work at home job, you have to be careful because there are a lot of scams out there.
  • Never pay money to start a work at home job unless you carefully researched it and it turns out to be legit.  Most work at home jobs you will not have to pay anything.
  • Check out Backstage Newspaper for some opportunities and also carefully research craigslist because sometimes they do have some jobs but you have to be very careful because there are some unscrupulous people there.  If it sounds too good to be true, it is.
  • There are many YouTube channels that promote work at home opportunities and they are legitimate.

If you do not find any opportunities you could start your own small business to work at  home.

Be aware you have to pay tax on this income because you are considered an independent contractor.

Thursday, October 6, 2016

Is It Really Worth It To Be Internet Famous??

                                      Is It Really Worth It To Be Internet Famous?

I have been thinking about this subject a lot in the last few months.  There have been a lot of stories in the news regarding internet safety and oversharing.

  Although I am not Internet famous, I am sincerely considering what I share online.  Do people really need to know everything that goes on in your life?

  Over the years I have been on social media, I have heard many sad stories of someone getting murdered, or robbed, due to their activities online.

The death of YouTube Guru Christina Grimmie really hit home for me because she was on her way to greatness and she shared her life through YouTube and while sharing her talent on The Voice Tv Show.

 The problem with Internet Fame is the fact that you are famous online but you do not have the protection that people in other forms of entertainment have at their disposal.

  You do not know who is watching you and you do not know the danger associated with Social Media.

There are a lot of sick people in this world and I really don't feel that it is worth it to expose your family or yourself.  I remember when life was so much easier and we really formed friendships and relationships the old-fashioned way,

I am not saying that it is wrong to work hard and create opportunities for yourself online but you will have to be careful to keep yourself safe.

 We all have heard about Kim Kardashian getting robbed and you would think that she would be safe because she did have a bodyguard but this just proves that you cannot get too comfortable sharing your possessions and personal information on social media.

If you are Internet Famous, please consider getting a bodyguard and proper permits to protect and defend yourself.



Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Having Faith In The Future By Listening To Our Elders.

                             Having Faith In The Future By Listening To Our Elders.

I spent some time with my mom this weekend and I learned so much from her regarding the past.  She recited stories about her life and I wondered " Could I have been so strong and survived." She talked about hard times that people of my generation haven't endured. Back then people had to do really hard labor to feed and take care of their families.  They dealt with extreme racism and they had to use bathrooms for colored people.  These people had so much against them but they fought hard to survive.

A lot of the things that we complain about don't match any of the trials and tribulations that they had to endure.  What they had in their favor were  family and neighbors who cared and was willing to lend a hand.  Fighting, fussing and picking each other apart is never going to help us progress in our ever changing world.

We need God and we need each other.  That is the key and the glue that will help our future generation to move forward.  When we act negatively with our brother, sister or fellow man we create dissension and we move forward to destroying ourselves.

Next time you hear elderly people talk about the past, just listen and realize if they could make it in this world of uncertainty, you can also but you cannot make it alone.

Change your thinking and mindset and create the world that you want to live in.  Peace dwells in all of us.  Working together is the answer and love each other because God loves you and he will bless you for what is in your heart.

Monday, September 19, 2016

How to save money on clothing


Monday, September 5, 2016

How To Live A Peaceful Life



How To Live A Peaceful Life:



  1.  Do not make or stay friends with people who are negative because their spirit will rub off on you.
  2. Surround yourself with people who are of the same peaceful temperament as yourself.
  3. Diffuse arguments quickly in your home and take a time-out.
  4. Live the type of lifestyle in front of your children that you would like for them to become.
  5. Listen to good music that makes you happy and brings back good memories only.
  6. Give to the needy because this brings joy to your spirit.
  7. Bring plants and animals into your life because it brings love into your world.
  8. Pray to God because prayer changes things.
  9. Learn how to save money because debt does not equal living in peace.
  10. Share knowledge with others because knowledge is power.

Monday, August 22, 2016

Saving Money On Back To School Clothes

You can learn all the tricks to saving money on school clothes in this video.

Saturday, August 20, 2016

How To Save Energy In The Summer


How To Save Energy In The Summer:

The first thing you want to get is an energy efficient air conditioner because some of the older models are outdated and burn a lot of energy.  You will see a big difference in your electric bill and you will save a lot of money.

Keep your shades and curtains closed during the day while you are at work and this will keep your house cooler.

Tell your children to keep lights on in only one section of your house or apartment and tell them to only stay in that part of the house.

Unplug all non-essential things to save money, such as; microwave oven because if you are not using it most of the day, this will save you some money in the long run.

Do not use your Oven in the summer because it will overheat your house. Use a Crock pot instead.

Use energy saving light bulbs all over your house.  This really helps you to save year round.

Use your air conditioner in the daytime and use fans at night unless it is extremely hot and you will save money.

Buy and use portable drying racks to dry your clothing because the dryer will heat up your house.

Take short showers at night to save energy.


Friday, August 19, 2016

Carols Daughter Marula Curl Therapy Softening Hair Mask Review - Video Dailymotion

Carols Daughter Marula Curl Therapy Softening Hair Mask Review - Video Dailymotion: This is me Josiemarie reviewing the Carols Daughter Marula Curl Therapy Softening Hair Mask. This product is very good and it really makes my hair manageable. You can get Carols Daughter Products at http://www.carolsdaughter.com/ You can also see me on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOVgQlHNqko59iTIGbmuUDw You can also visit my blog at http://sashamoniquetalks.blogspot.com You can visit my other blog where I give advice at http://sashamoniquetalksadviceshow.blogspot.com

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

The Male Gold Digger How To Spot Him And What He Is After

Hello Ladies:  We all have heard the term " Gold Digger."  This word conjures up the images of a beautiful lady who uses rich men for their money and she usually like the finer things in life but likes to use men to establish the lifestyle that she wishes for herself.  She doesn't have any real feelings for these men, it is strictly business only.

I would like to take time now to explain and show you who the male gold digger is.  The male gold digger is usually an attractive man or if he isn't, he has a lot of charisma and if you do not watch yourself, you will fall insanely in love with him.


The Charmer:

This man likes the finer things in life and he will tell you everything that you want to hear.  He will tell you how beautiful and wonderful you are and even when you are not looking your best, he will make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world.  He will rub your tired feet after a long day at work and run your bath water and then make dinner reservations and when the check comes he makes you pay for it.

The Lover:

He usually is very good in the bedroom and he uses this as a tool to control your mind.  The times that you would like to say no to his outlandish spending habits, he will head to the bedroom and get you to change your mind.  Before you know it, you will be paying for his expensive phone, he will use your credit cards and purchase things without your knowledge.  

The Snake:

When he first meets you, he will find out what kind of work you do.  He will try to find out whether you live alone or not.  Sometimes he will search for information about you before you even meet so that he will be sure about your financial status.  When he takes you out on your first date, he will pay for everything with funds from another woman he is scamming.  Before you know it, he has slithered himself into your life.

The Slacker:

After he gains your confidence, he will sit around the house and play computer games all day or sleep the day away till you come home from work.  He will tell you that he will find a job but he has no intentions of working except working on your pocket.

The Thief:

He will get you to buy him a car and fancy jewelry and the latest shoes, and sneakers or if he is living alone, he pushes you to sign a lease on an expensive apartment or home.  Since you love him, nothing is off limits till you get tired of his foolishness and by that time, you are out a lot of money.

The Deceiver:

A lot of times he will not let you meet his family.  He will tell you that they are against him and he will also change the subject if you ask about his family.  He will not let you meet his friends because he doesn't want you to talk to them and find out what horrible person that he is.

The Player:

You are usually not the only lady that he is seeing.  He will date other wealthy woman to keep the revenue pouring in.  If he has children and owes child support, he will have you paying his support payments.


Ladies:  This is my list on how to spot a gold digger and if you see any of these signs run.  Resist and you will save yourself pain and suffering.



Monday, August 15, 2016

Time to get your kids ready for school.

In my area, kid's will be starting school next month and it is always a hard time because sometimes you have more than one child starting school at the same time.   You have to remember to buy school supplies and go through your kid's clothing to see what you can salvage from last year.


Your kid's school supplies vary each year because some subjects require specific items.  What I like to do is start getting general school supplies such as; notebooks, pencils, book bags, and paper.  You can never go wrong with these items and it is best to get these items when they are on sale.  Then you should save some money just in case you need certain things when school starts.

To save on clothing, you can go to some discount stores and buy some general  and basics such as; underwear, socks, undershirts, bras and get nice heavyweight t-shirts in nice colors.  Then you want to hit your local thrift stores and pick your kid's up some clothing pieces that don't go out of style.  The last things you want to pick up are some trendy items from the mall so they can mix and match will all the clothing items and get shoes and sneakers too.

You will save a lot of money and from now on, shop for your kid's clothing out of season to save a bundle of money.  If your child is growing fast or gaining weight; buy some bigger sizes from the clearance rack or you can even swap clothing with women in your neighborhood to get clothing that they are no longer using.

Saturday, August 13, 2016

How to buy shoes on eBay.


This young man gave some excellent advice on how to buy shoes on eBay.  I am going to follow the tips that he gave so I can get a good deal.

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

Top Ten Way's To Look Good And Feel Good When You Are On A Budget

Hello Ladies:

There are times that we have to cut back on some of our expenses.  You can still look good and learn some lifelong skills that will enable you to look fabulous and save some money.   You could have lost a job or have some outstanding expenses that you need to take care of.

These tips are very easy to follow and you will not feel deprived at all.



Top Ten Way's To Look Good And Feel Good When On A Budget:


  1. Find a hairstyle that is simple and easy to maintain yourself so that you always look elegant such as,  Bun or ponytail, a bob or another style that suits you but isn't expensive to maintain.
  2. Buy good smelling soaps and perfumed lotions.  My favorites to use when trying to save money are Avon creams and lotions that are available at local Dollar stores.  I love these because they only cost a dollar but they do not smell cheap and this way you can forgo buying perfume but still smell divine.
  3. Do a hand soak with a mild body wash and olive oil mix and you can also use this on your feet also.  This will make sure that your hands are nice and soft and so are your feet.  When you are finished you can add your lotion to your hands and feet and put socks on your feet and they will be just beautiful in the morning.
  4. Have beauty night with your close friends and you do each other's hair.  Make this a monthly event and make sure to have some good food on hand to enjoy the evening.
  5. Buy some spray starch and sizing because it will always make your clothes look like it was freshly pressed from the dry cleaners.
  6. Do your own manicure when money is short.  Nail polish is very inexpensive and you can paint your nails and toes.  Keep toes in a neutral color so that your toes compliment all your clothing items.  To create a classy look, shape your nails and put clear polish on and this way you do not have to worry about your polish looking chipped while at work.
  7. Wash all your delicate tops in cold water and this will make them look new longer.
  8. Pluck  or use eyebrow shaver once a week on stray hairs that have grown out and this will delay a trip to your local nail shop to get your eyebrows done.
  9. Eat Jello twice per week to keep your nails long and healthy and you can also soak your nails in unflavored gelatin.
  10. Add a little lavender water to the washing machine when washing your clothes and put a little in a spray bottle and add some water and lightly spray  your blue jeans to make them smell nice when you iron them.  Make sure that you do a skin test before to make sure that you aren't allergic first.  Also lightly spray your pillows and bedding to make them smell nice also.  Again, test to make sure that you or other family members aren't allergic.


I hope you enjoyed these tips and add some of your own in the comment section.

Disclaimer:  Try all these tips at your own risk.  I have used them all and didn't have any problems with them but everybody's body chemistry is different.

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Is Social Media making you antisocial?

I have been involved in Social Media for some time now and I am noticing that it is so easy to email, text or chat online, that my social interactions with other people are diminishing.  The fact that you do not have to leave your house to have communications with anyone is ideal but is it healthy?  We are becoming a society that is drifting further apart and a lot of us don't really see or understand what is happening.

Honestly, I really have to make myself go out to see people that I love because I have become complacent with my interactions.  All day, most of us are looking at the phone screen, computer screen or on gaming systems. We don't realize that we are being programmed.

I love Social Media but I feel that I need to step away from it to gain my life back and a healthy well-being. We need each other.  Families need to be close and share life without the phone and etc.

Computers and phones are a blessing but do not let it become a curse.

Sunday, July 31, 2016

Homemade Laundry Detergents

                                             Homemade Laundry Detergents

Are you saving enough money?

                                                     How To Save Money

Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Nice Clothing For Older Women







I am really enjoying this lady's channel.  I like that her clothes are expensive looking yet simple in its styling.  These kinds of video's can be used to get ideas for your own wardrobe.  

Friday, July 22, 2016

What things are you willing to do without?



: Living Below Your Means:

I had to take a serious look at my expenses and my income this year.  I have some wonderful events that are happening in my family this year and I need money to accommodate these expenses.

The best way for me to be ready without using credit cards is to cut back.  The first thing that I must do is to find out what I am willing to live without to reach my goals.  Below you will see what I am doing and what I am planning to do to make my financial dreams a reality.


What I Can Live Without:
High-Speed Internet Service:
Use low-cost Internet service if you do not use the Internet for conducting your business.  If all you need is Internet service just to check your emails, then you don't need top of the line service.

      2. New Clothes:

Stop buying clothes that you don't really need right now.  Go through your closet to see what can be re-worked and worn differently and ways to freshen up your wardrobe.  Scarves and jewelry work wonders to update your wardrobe.

     3. Analog Phone Service: 

I have not done it yet but I am thinking of having cell phone service only and that would help me to save a bundle.

     4. Change Your Hair Style:

Wear a simple low maintenance hairstyle that doesn't cost me anything to maintain.

     5. Movie Theater:

I will buy DVD or borrow movies from the Library.

    6. Cut Cable Service:

I am planning to downgrade my service or totally cut my cable.  The fees are very high and most movie channels are playing the same movie.  It is very easy to watch shows and movies on your computer and there are low price options such as; Netflix, Hulu and there are others that will give you a great deal.

  7. Loose Change;

Go to the Bank and get change so I don't have to break Dollar bills to get change.  We waste a lot of money when we have to go to a store and buy things because we really need change.

  8. Restaurant:

I will not go to Restaurants and if I do, it will be low price local Eateries.  There are a lot of new spots that opened in my area and they are really reasonable.

  9. Personal Beauty Products:

I will buy products that can be used for more than one thing such as All in one body washes that can 
be used to wash hair also and I am planning to make my own fragrance-free soap.

 10. Shoes:

I will use shoes in nude or black to keep my spending down and use a basic nude handbag to go with everything




















Monday, July 18, 2016

Could Your Rings Be Making You Sick?








Could Your Rings Be Making You Sick?


I have been a Jewelry lover for quite some time and I make sure that I clean my rings on a regular basis but some people take their Jewelry to the retail store where they purchased their rings to get them cleaned and then they don't adequately clean them at home.

If you think about it, there are many times that we have colds or flu and have no idea that the germs can transfer to our rings and help make us or others sick.  Throughout the day we wash our hands but a lot of people do not wash their Jewelry and this can be very dangerous because germs live and thrive on surfaces.

I feel that your rings should be wash throughout the day or at least 1 per day and you could achieve this by just using dish detergent and a soft bristled tooth brush.

Germs That Can Live On Your Rings Are:

E-coli
Noro-virus
Parasites
Salmonella
Fungi
Bacteria
Protozoa






Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Dressing The Part? (Should You!)

Many years ago while growing up, I can remember Mom pressing me and my sister's hair and getting our clothes ready to go to church on Sunday Morning.  She took pride in the way our clothes look and all the mothers did the same to make sure that their kids look presentable to go to the Lords house.

In my teen years, there was a lot of emphasis on fashion and what you look like in those days and although I wasn't the best dress, a lot of people were.

When I was in my twenties, we would all go out and people would be dressed sharp to go to a club, restaurant, church, funeral and other events and you would really stand out like a sore thumb if you didn't.

Now, starting in the mid to late 1990's I noticed that people no longer got dressed up to go to church unless they were in their fifties or sixties and the kids would wear pants and regular items that they would wear to school.

I don't understand why things changed but in some instances, it was a good idea because people could go to church and other events and could be comfortable and without spending a lot of money, but, I also feel that young people these day's don't know what appropriate dress is.  There are a time and place for everything and I believe that it would be good for someone to teach young people how and what to wear for an interview and what to wear once you get a job because it is very important.

Many times people will receive a job or increase in pay based on their appearance.  Do I think it is fair  (No!) but this is just the way it is.  You are perceived by the way you look based on your hygiene and your appearance.

There may be times in your life where you may not have the money to buy the kind of clothes that you would like because of a loss of a job or etc. but, what you can do is start by buying some pieces in the same color such as pants and skirts and then add color with tops and plain shoes and after while you will build your wardrobe the way that you want it to be.

Create a uniform with your clothing so you will always have something nice to wear.

Dressing the part is important!


                                                                   SashaMoniqueTalks




Friday, June 24, 2016

How to keep your kids learning and growing during the summer.

A lot of kids are now out for the summer and they are easily bored.  We want our children to keep learning and growing during the summer months so they are ready when school starts back in the fall.
Summer vacation affords us a lot of non-traditional ways of stimulating our kids intellectually.   Below you will find some tried and true methods and others that will give your kids a wealth of information they can use and also introduce to their friends.



The public library:  A lot of us use our computer but we forget what the library has to offer.  You can take your kids and they can read and learn about things of the past and the future.  You can truly educate yourself by going to the library and search for any subject that you want.  You can teach your kids about studying in a nice quiet environment.  A lot of libraries have a movie night and arts and crafts.  The library, in my opinion, is a free, public educational institution where you can learn any subject at your own pace.

A Museum:  This is another wonderful place to take your children so that they can see paintings and sculptures from the past and it is a great place to go and spend time with your children and teach them about art and its beauty.

The Zoo:  The zoo is such a wonderful and fun place to take your kids to learn about different animals.  It exposes them to animals that they would never see in their ordinary environment.   Kids who love animals are usually more friendly and tolerant.

Money management:  We can let our kids make a list of things that they want from the store.  Tell them that you will get coupons for the items.  Give them a budget or make them pay for these things from their allowance.  Teach them to calculate to the penny how much they need and add in taxes and they will learn that they have to learn how to save and budget for the things that they want.  Get the Sunday paper and show them how to clip out coupons.

Play Monopoly: Monopoly is a good game that will teach your children about money in a fun way.  We all have played and loved this game but this is a way to teach kids in an entertaining manner.

Day trips:  Take your kids for a drive through the most disadvantaged areas in your state and then have a discussion with your children on ways you can end up living in these areas.  Such as poverty, drug abuse, drinking alcohol or not doing well in school . The next day drive through wealthy areas in your state and have the same conversation on ways you can improve your odds of living in these areas and living the best life possible.  Tell them about living a clean life, excelling in school, staying drug and alcohol-free and staying out of jail.

Cooking:  Get your children together and let them participate in preparing meals for the family.  This activity is good for both boys and girls.  This is a skill that they will always have and they could also make a career out of it.

Teach your kids about exercising:  I wish I had embraced this concept earlier in my life but it is never too late.  I know a lot of people go to the gym to do exercise and there is nothing wrong with that but, I think that you can get fit by running in the park. walking, exercising at home and if you start your children early, they will never have to shell out a lot of money to keep fit.

Start a container garden:  Take your kids to a store such as; Home Depot and get some seeds and containers and watch some YouTube to learn how to garden.  Let your kids start this and let them enjoy the "fruits of their labor" when the plants or vegetables start growing.
I hope you all enjoyed these tips.  Happy Summer!

Thursday, June 2, 2016

Finding Your Happy Sweet Spot In Your Life.




I decided to touch on this subject because I had a conversation with my daughter a few months ago and she asked me " What age were you the happiest?".   I told her that I was my happiest at age 40.  She looked very puzzled and she said " Why age Forty?".  Carefully I explained to her that it was the age that I started to fully embrace myself.  I had raised her into adulthood and it was the time that I could truly live my life and do the things that I wanted to do.

It was a time that I was no longer responsible for another person.  When you are forty you have gone through the times in your life when you were totally insecure with yourself due to weight gain or maybe other flaws that you have.   Forty is the age that you can look back and perhaps see the mistakes that you have made and truly thank God for his protection and seeing how you made it through.  You see, life is not perfect or easy but the way you deal with things makes all the difference.

My twenties was not easy at all and you would think that being young would present me with more opportunities and happy experiences.   The road to my forties gave me a chance for forgiveness, and it gave me the wisdom to speak to another young person and tell them that if you persevere, you will be alright.

I am so much calmer now and when things go wrong I know that there will be a way of escape and know to pray for God's guidance.

Through hard times, The Lord showed me how to be resourceful and now I count it as the many gifts that I have.  Happiness starts with self acceptance.  We have all seen the person who the world may see as unattractive but this person thinks they are the most beautiful person in the world and it seems to draw people and make other people think this person is beautiful too.  Deep down this person may know that they are unattractive but the positive image that they project is charismatic.   This shows that you can draw positive things into your life, if you just believe.

If you are young and short on money; buy yourself little small gifts that makes you happy and project a positive image to the world.  I promise that one day you will tell your own story of how you found your happiness in life.  Many years ago when I would be short on cash, I would go to a discount store and buy nail polish that cost $1.00 and keep my nails beautifully polished everyday.  This made me feel happy.  You can find beauty and solace in simplicity.

There is an old saying "Paint a picture of what you want to be."   Project happiness into the world and that is what you will get back.



                                         ***********SashaMoniqueTalks**************


Thursday, May 26, 2016

The View ( Bathing Suit Body Shaming)

Today I watched The View and they were speaking about the body shaming incident with Amy Schumer and the ladies on the program did a segment supposedly with their bathing suits.  Whoopi came out with her signature outfit with the big pants and a big button up shirt, then Candace came out with a bathing suit with a cover-up and she didn't remove the cover-up and she looked uncomfortable.

Then, Joy came out with pants and a top on and I started scratching my head and said to myself " what the heck!!!"     Paula came out and she had a bathing suit with a big cover-up and she did not remove it to show her bathing suit.  She was also uncomfortable.

I have no problem with what Whoopi  and Joy had on because they are women of a certain age but it would have been nice if they actually had  on a suit with a cover-up. I was appalled at Candace and Paula because if we are going to show young ladies that their bodies are perfect just the way they are, we have to lead by example.


I don't know who came up with the idea to do this segment but it was a very poor attempt at supporting the cause against body shaming.

Shame on you The View, we must do better!

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Lies And Myths About Plus Size Women.


Hello Ladies:  I have been a plus size women most of my life and over the years I notice and heard all the myths and lies that were told about us, so, let us look at these myths and bust them and you can even add some of your own if you can think of some.

                                     Lies And Myths About Plus Size Women

We eat all the time:  This is a myth because a lot of us in fact, do not have a big appetite.  Our bodies carry more weight or we eat sweets and carbohydrates that are not kind to our bodies.


We don't smell good:  I have heard this myth many times.With all the body weight, we know that we have to try harder to keep ourselves clean and fresh and we make it a habit to bathe both day and night.  We love to wear the finest perfumes and we smell divine.


We are lazy:  This is a myth because there are a lot of ladies who work, run businesses and take care of our families and we do the same things as a person of a so-called normal weight.  I have seen some thin people who are very lazy.


No Man wants to marry us:  Just look around and you will see many plus size women with husbands or boyfriends and some men specifically like a plus size lady.  Truthfully, you will see more "big girls" with husbands than smaller women.  Men like to take a woman out who isn't always complaining that she is on a diet.


We are desperate and will take care of a man:  This is a myth because we are like any other woman. There are women who put up with this behavior, but, I know a lot of women who definitely will not take care of a man and will demand respect from her mate.

  Some men automatically think that if you are plus size, you will be their fool and this is a misnomer.  If you mistreat us, we will get rid of you very fast.


We are sloppy and wear ugly clothes:  I remember a time when there was not a good variety of clothing for plus size women, but, times have changed and I am so thankful for this.  We love to look good and wear fashionable clothing too.

 So many retailers carry clothing in our size now, and we can also get our clothing online and we can look just as good as anyone.

We love clothing that accentuates our curves and in beautiful colors.
They think we are not smart because we are fat:  I have no idea who thought of this because a bigger body doesn't have anything to do with our intellect.

  A lot of us are very bright and if people would have a real conversation with us without worrying about our size, they would know that we bring a lot to the table ( No Pun Intended).
We should only wear black because black is slimming:  If I had to wear black clothing I would scream.

  I think that we can wear clothing in beautiful colors just like anyone and I also encourage it because black clothing can sometimes wash us out.

As long as the clothing has a good fit, we can wear it.
All of us are unhealthy:   If your weight is affecting your health, then you should try to lose some weight but I know some ladies who have no health issues at all, so, we should not be put in a box.

 There are ladies who are very healthy and you will see them strutting proudly with a big, beautiful, smile on their faces.

* I hope this post eliminate the lies and the myths and I am sure that there are a lot more.

Ladies, live loud and proud and don't let any one's perception of you, get in the way of you living your life to the fullest.

We are beautiful and we have value.  Let's show the world what we are made of!

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

How To Save Money.

                                               9 Ways To Save Money

I like to include some of these video's to see other peoples perspective and learn specific way's that they use to save money.


Monday, April 25, 2016

Should You Have Giveaways And Contest On Social Media Sites?


When I started my Youtube Channel years ago, I was very eager to jump in the arena and there were a lot of people having giveaways and I thought that it was a very nice way to get to know people and also a way of promotion for my Youtube Channel.

People were giving away some really nice things on their channel and I entered some contest and it was so fun to participate, and interact with other youtubers who started around the time that I did.

I decided to do a giveaway and before it was announced I started to gather the items that I wanted to give away. This was joyful to me and this gave me the opportunity to make some new friends online.

What started to happen was, people were only subscribing to my channel only to get into the giveaway and as soon as the giveaway was over, they unsubscribed.    Since this is also a form of promotion the decision was made not to do any more giveaways.

From this point I decided I  would do lovemail and  have enjoyed contacting some subscribers behind the scene's to send them things that they would like.

This is a way that I give back to the people who sincerely subscribed to my channel and who have supported me and we became friendly with each other.

I have been on other social media sites and have participated in some giveaways and have found, that, some people have a giveaway but they never give you the prize that you won.  I don't know whether these people changed their mind about the giveaway or what.

My feelings regarding this is; if you cannot follow through on your giveaway, just cancel it because things do happen that may prevent you from sending the prizes off.   This would be the fair way to deal with this situation.

Another thing that we must consider when we host a giveaway is; when you announce a giveaway, you open yourself up to dealing with some legal issues when you do not award the prizes, because this could be considered gambling fraud.

Make sure that you do a thorough research regarding contest and giveaways online to see if it is worth you taking a chance with the legalities of hosting a contest.  Also, be sure that you have the prizes already in your possession and the money to pay postal fee's before you post your giveaway.

Keep thorough records of when the contest started and it ending date and make sure that you save all receipts such as; sales receipts from the purchase of contest items and postal fee's.  This will prevent some problems in the future.


Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Are We Sharing Too Much On Social Media?

I have been active on social media for a few years now.  I wasn't exactly sure about what I should share and what I shouldn't share on social media.  When we start on our journey on Youtube and also start Blogging, our creative juices start flowing and since we are sharing our lives sometimes, we over share.  I am guilty of this myself, but what we don't realize is that anyone with an Internet connection is privy to all our personal information.

Sometimes we forget that there are people on  social networks that can view us and we don't know who they are.  Some of these companies demand that we use our real names which further put us at risk.  There are people who like us but there are also people for some reason or another do not care for us and we have to learn to be very careful about disclosing certain things on social media.

Like most of you, I have heard a lot of horror stories and most of the time it comes from someone becoming obsessed with you or don't like something that you revealed.  We must never forget that there are some really crazy people in this world and we have to take steps to protect ourselves and our families.

Let's make a conscious effort to share but don't share too much. We deserve our privacy like anyone else.  Do not give anyone an open door into your life.

If your life is threatened do not take it lightly and alert the proper authorities and tell the people that you love, what is going on.

Saturday, March 19, 2016

QVC You Are The Leader!



I have been  watching the shopping networks for many years.  Many times I imagined myself presenting Jewelry and describing the product and getting a chance to talk to the customers interested in buying Jewelry at affordable prices.  Being a plus sized girl most of my life I quietly thought that people my size could never get a job in the TV Shopping Network arena.

Many years ago, they didn't even have any plus size models.  I would watch models showcasing the many famous clothing brands and sometimes I was afraid to order because I was not sure that the style or cut of the garment would suit my body type.

Well, QVC I have to salute you.  Recent years I have seen so many changes in QVC because you have a variety of host who are plus size.  This makes me feel very proud because now, a young lady will see these beautiful plus size women and say to herself " I can do this too".

These plus size ladies who work for QVC are very proficient at their job and it makes me more eager to order clothing from them.

QVC have plus size models who vary from size 12 on up and some even look like they are a size 20.  I can tell from the way they are wearing the item whether it would look good on me and it is such an blessing because we no longer have to stand in the background wearing the big shapeless Mumu.

Accepting yourself at any size is a great thing to do.  If you don't, nobody else will!

Friday, March 4, 2016

How To Save Money On Office Wear






                                          How To Save Money On Office Wear

Hello Ladies:  After online research, I found a wonderful website.  You all know that thrift shopping is a hobby and passion of mine and I love searching through the many racks to find beautiful clothing.

Some of us are working and don't have the time to hit our local thrift stores or maybe our town don't carry quality items.  Well, you are in luck, You can now find nice clothing for work or to wear just about anywhere and you can really save money.  The website that I am just in love with is Swap.com.

I searched and I found some beautiful tops and blouses for five and six dollars and the first time shipping was free.  If you order after that, the shipping is very reasonable.  Being a plus-size lady, sometimes you can be very hard to fit and Swap.com makes it very easy to return items that do not fit you correctly.

This online consignment shop is the answer to us all who may be on a budget and the clothes are in great condition.  You can also send in your items to make a little money or use your credits towards new purchases.  I ordered five tops and it came to $25.00.  What a bargain!

They also have some higher-priced items if you are interested in designer items.  You can also shop for your children.  This would be really good for shopping for school clothes to mix in with new items to build your kid's wardrobe.

If you are a lady who is re-entering the workforce or changing jobs, you can create an office-friendly wardrobe that is affordable or if you are just tired of your clothes and want some new pieces, don't be afraid to try Swap.com because you have nothing to lose.

Please leave a comment if you have tried this website and tell me what you think about it.


Wednesday, February 24, 2016

The Bachelor (Commentary)

Hello Ladies:

I have been watching The Bachelor for a few weeks now and I just had to comment on what I have noticed.  There have been so many ladies vying for the attention of a young man with hopes to be the one chosen to be his wife.  So many women have gone on dates with this man and they have kissed him and he has expressed his desire to be with them and have told them that he see potential in them for something more in the future.

These ladies are believing every word and have fallen for this man. They are being catty with some of the other women so they will be the lady with the so-called golden ticket to matrimony.

Most of these women are very beautiful and they put their feelings on the line.  I have watched this man talk with the ladies families and he told every one of them that he has deep feelings for their daughters when in fact, he has to only pick one woman.  Honestly, I am getting very sick of the stereotype that we have to dumb ourselves down to get a man.

The very fact that he is kissing all these women is sickening to me because it is not necessary to do this to meet and spend time with these ladies.  Some of these ladies could be harboring disease and I am sure that some are doing a little more than just kissing.  When these ladies are not picked they have to deal with the humiliation of being second best and it is not a good place to be.

There was also a discussion about the show always have a black woman who the man never picks.  We have to be realistic and know that this show is not for us and there was a show in the past called The Flavor Of Love who showcased black women trying to win the affection of Flavor Flav and although it was interesting, it was the same concept of The Bachelor.   In my opinion we should not go on the Bachelor because it is just the truth that some other races do not want to date or marry a black women and it is their choice.  We have to stop pushing ourselves on people when our men love and adore us.

Ladies, we have a lot to offer the world and we do not want our daughters to think that they have to jump through hoops just to get a man.   There is someone for everyone, and if you meet someone and they are not interested, there will always be another one who will be.

Concentrate on celebrating you and building yourself up, the right one will come along, just wait and see.  Make him respect you and he should be the one jumping through hoops to get you.


                                               *** ******SashaMoniqueTalks***********


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